Before you come at me, read this!
When I say lower your expectations, I don't mean you shouldn't have boundaries. What I mean is stop expecting people to be who they aren't and stop wanting people to do things they aren't doing.
We all have people in our lives that may or may not be who they were when we met them. People grow and change and evolve. This also means that people may not act or do things you are use to. Maybe they never have and we are just sitting here waiting for them to be who we want them to be. This right here is what breaks people. This is what make YOU sad, not them.
The only person you have control over is YOU. This can be a hard pill to swallow but a necessary one if you are unhappy. You need to learn to move on with how you want to live life. What makes YOU happy? This doesn't mean you need to leave or cut people out. Instead, look at it as acceptance and even kindness.
Once you start accepting people for who they are instead of expecting them to act how you would, the sooner you can focus more on your own needs and behavior. Too many of us are sitting around waiting for people to change. Change is something we all do but in our on way and on our own time.
Start accepting people for who they are, and focus more on how you want to be. This my friend, is a huge step in the right direction of healing.
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