Why you should stop saying "It is what it is."

This common saying is essentially a cop out. It gives us the ability to stay the way we are and yet complain about why our life sucks. It is saying that we have no other way out so we will just accept it.

This mindset is so far off of what we teach the children in this world whether you are a teacher or not. If you are an adult, there are children who look up to you. You are modeling behavior for others whether you like it or not.

As adults, we know that there is always a way out. However, we put limiting beliefs in our lives. We know that change is not always easy and it is much easier to just accept what is happening and just complain about it to people we know will agree with us that there is no other way.

It is a trap that we either create for ourselves, or let ourselves get sucked into. Only you have the power to get out of it and change your current situation. You don't have to live unhappy. You don't have to wake up and dread the work day everyday.

I am not saying it is easy to change but making a small change everyday can help you get to where you want to be. You have to go out and look for it or do it. Without taking action there will be no change.

Self Care

As a mother of three, you can imagine how little time I have to myself. I am always caring for someone else, including my husband. Some days it seems as if I don't even know who I am because I am running on auto pilot. It can be so easy to fall into that trap. It can be so easy to forget who you are and what YOU like to do once you become a mother. That is why it self care is so important. Self care doesn't have to be going to the spa. It could be as easy as taking ten minutest outside to watch the leaves fall from the trees. It could be that stretch session on the living room floor while your kids are at school and baby is napping. It could be waiting until everyone goes to sleep at night so you can sneak that glass of wine and trashy tv show. Self care looks different for everyone. The important part is just making sure that every day you do something for you.

When I neglect to provide myself self care, I find myself teetering on depression. I find myself with mom guilt, anxiety, and self loathing thoughts. Instead of making time for myself to build myself up, I will bring myself down and tell myself negative things. That is why I make time for self care everyday. Even if some days are smaller amounts of time. I need those moments to remind myself of who I am, what I want and how capable I am.

It is so easy to get caught up. Make sure you take that time out. It could change everything.

Happy 2023

It's a new year. Fresh start for everyone. What will we make of this new year?

While I love goal setting and fresh starts, I also don't want to put to much pressure on myself either. Consistency is very important but it is also a learning curve if you have never done it before. The biggest lesson I am going to bring with me this year is that even if I mess up, it doesn't mean I should just throw in the towel and keep going down the bad slope. Instead, I need to just make my next move a good, smart one.

I am prone to just giving up if I make a bad food choice. If I ruin my diet, I just throw in the towel and binge. Sometimes I will start over the next day and other times I just give up for a while until I get sick of myself again. This year I really want to focus on my nutrition; among many other things. I really don't like the way I look and feel, along with many other people. The only way to improve this is to move more and eat less. It's simple. I know the answer. I just need to actually implement it. I am publicly saying it here for accountability and maybe, just maybe, I will inspire someone else to join me.

The number on the scale does make me feel a certain way even though many say it shouldn't. But I am also at a point where the number really doesn't matter too much as long as it goes down and don't feel like I do right now. This is growth for me. Writing about it helps more than I thought. I really do think writing is therapeutic and more people should try it. If even for your own self to come to realizations about the way you feel about things. Sometimes, like right now, I will write and I don't even know what I am about to write and then something profound comes out and it makes me think about things differently.

Whatever it is that you plan on to work on this year, do your best to do it every single day. If you do, you are guaranteed success.

Good luck!

Happy 2023!