I have recently come to the conclusion that I need to grow up. I never quite realized how immature I am. I mean I knew, but never really sat with it until recently. I was at a get together with friends about a week ago and I was the youngest one there. I made a comment that mostly fell flat. There was some laughs but I think it was more laughter out of how appalling I was being rather then being funny. It was good though because it opened my eyes. It was not a profession sce

Do you ever look at someone else's life and think “How come I don’t live like that?”, “Why is her house always so clean?”, “Why don’t I have that decorative eye?” I think like that sometimes. Especially when I want to redecorate, which my husband will tell you is a lot. Its not even necessarily redecorating but more of moving the furniture around. I just cant seem to have the same layout for too long. It drives me crazy. But when I see another moms home, and I mean in real

As I wrap up June, I like to think about what I want out of this year. Every time a new month comes, I get that fresh burst of energy with the thought of starting over new and fresh. I make my list of goals and listen to motivational speakers. I get geared up and ready to go. I am consistent for maybe three really good days and then I falter. Anyone else? Of course I don’t mean to or even want to, but something about consistency and me don’t blend. This is when I need to loo

I decided to grab some lunch at Chipotle the other day since that is a rare occasion when I’m out alone. It was a warm and sunny day, so after I ordered my bowl, I found a small rot iron table outside for two, under an umbrella. This particular location was located in a bustling shopping plaza. One I had never been to before. There were cars and people everywhere, perfect for people-watching. As I sat there, my mind started to drift about work and things I needed to do that d

I never understood how much I struggled with boundaries until I realized in therapy that I didn’t have any. I am a people pleaser. I honestly never considered this before. I don’t feel like a people pleaser. But when you decipher my behavior, the evidence is clear. It was so disheartening for me to accept. I also thought I was doing things for myself and doing things I wanted. But in reality, I am always the first to be flexible or tell people, “I don’t care what we do.” But

What do I really want? Why is it so hard for me to focus on just one thing? I really do feel like I want one thing to focus on but then my head will think of 40,000 more ideas to focus on instead. Maybe what I really need to do is focus on my schedule first. Implementing the things I enjoy and then eventually I will figure it out. Is that right? I feel like I want a blog. A place where I can write my thoughts and maybe someone will find it and then my experience will help th

Limit your time with regret. Give help to others. Focus on the present instead of romanticizing the past. Acknowledge regret, and move forward with confidence. Limit your time spent on regret. We cannot go back in time and fix how we reacted, change the words we said, or choose a different path. The only thing we can do is learn from what worked and what didn’t. Living in the past hinders our ability to see how things can change and improve. It is all too easy to dwell on how

What does it mean to do the right thing? How do we know what the right thing is? Not every situation you are put in gives you that clear gut instinct on what to do. Feelings are involved and that makes everything tricky. This is probably the most selfish thing I will write but I believe in following your own feelings first. That being said, I wouldn't encourage anyone to purposely hurt someone else's feelings. However, at the end of the day, you are only going to sleep with y

I have been keeping a journal since 5th grade. This is the earliest I remember because I still have this journal and all the years after...